We live in a tiny house. D- and I are looking for a house to buy and are currently renting 723 SqFt. Living in such a small place has made looking at large houses unique, especially since most new places are over 3000 SqFt. Plus basement. We brought it up with our financial advisor (yes I too have a financial advisor, he has one thing with our money that I don’t: Objectivity.), and he told us that he had a 7000 SqFt castle. When asked what he has in it he replied, “You’ll fill it up.”
Which makes sense, there’s a law of physics that describes how gas expands to fill the available volume. It seems to me that people work the same way. If we were to buy one of these 4000SqFt homes it’s only a matter of time before we expanded to fill the rooms with furniture. But that’s expensive. Or I could just fill it with cheap furniture. Then it’s not expensive, it’s ugly. Hmmm, something needs to give.
I have stared working out a new theory: The Hobo rules of Acquisition.
This is just a theory. I’m still working out the bugs and if you see any holes please point them out!
- Premise #1 We expand to fill the available space. A homeless person will maximize how much a shopping cart can carry.
- Premise #2 Resources are finite. Don’t believe me, look at your checking account.
- Premise #3 Human take comfort in things. If unchecked, we will begin a collection of some kind. When I was in high school 3 people I knew moved out and rented their own apartment. Yes it was a mess and it only lasted 6 months. But they each suddenly start to collect things: skate board wheels, comic books, and those little tables from inside delivery pizza boxes. The sense of an every growing group of things gave them comfort. No matter how worthless those things were.
Rule #1 - Value of Scarcity
homeless person will fight someone for taking their plastic bags, or holey shoe. They don’t have much, but they will keep it at all costs.The converse is also true: I had a friend who had a step daughter who broke all her toys. Working with a psychologist, they determined that she didn’t understand value. To help her, they took all her toys away. She could then earn her toys back one at a time by doing chores and extra work around the house. When she only had one or two toys that she earned, she was far less willing to break them.
The more things you have the less you will value all of it. People buy lot of cheap stuff to have more stuff, then they don’t really like or want any of it. And it’s not treated well, merely accumulated. Warning signs: Do we have piles, of things we don’t use? Or have we bought/rented places for putting stuff we might need? Worse yet, have we bought something we needed, knowing full well that the exact same thing somewhere but can’t find it?
Rule #2 - The few items, the nicer items we have
One member of my family who is single has 3 cars that work some of the time. All of them are beat up, all of them are old. She will tell you 2 things: She needs each one, and she can’t afford a new car. Wouldn’t it be better to have 1 working car, than 3 junk cars?
Want a nice TV? Get 1 $1500 tv, not 3 $500 tvs. Want a nice couch, get 1 couch that will last forever. It seems like such an easy thing, but have seen so many houses filled up with cheap stuff, then when there is something they want, they can’t afford it. I fell victim to this too: My weakness was computers. I wanted lots. 1 for TV and music, 1 for video games, 1 as a server, etc. D- broke me of this. I sell off used equipment and upgrade 1 machine to do everything. Sure I paid more for that machine, but it takes up less space, and it’s more valuable to me.
Rule #3 - Having is not valuable; Using is valuable
I think about hoarders: Houses filled with paper, boxes, broken machines, snow tires in bedrooms, etc. They have lots of stuff, but we think they are crazy. Why is that different that walls of CDs, DVDs, wine, comic books? Now if you read / watch / listen value is created. But really, how many DVD’s do you watch a day? How often do you take the comic books from the plastic and read? Collecting, hoarding, it’s the same thing. Collectors just have money, or are more focused. Or they are addicted to buying.
I like to buy stuff too. I like the shopping process. I like test drives, fittings, samples, and talking with sales people. I have done my time in the retail sector, and I’ve done a fair share of selling. D– and I even joke about the endorphins that are released when we swipe the credit card. Bought a sweater, what a rush!
But that’s where the danger lies: when we buy for the act of buying.
We no longer care about what we buy, just so long as we buy something. The mind is a great rationalizer. Buying things makes us feel better. It’s a drug like caffeine or nicotine. We live in a consumer economy. Selling is how businesses survive, it’s what drives our economy. It’s why advertising is everywhere. Frankly, I don’t see anything wrong with that, with the possible exception of drug ads. Then again, if you think a pill can help you with “male enhancement” you have other issues to deal with.
This is skepticism is valuable. You stop believing the lies. You free yourself from the illusion, of what companies tell you is value and follow your own values.
Resolution:
I don’t want anyone to be homeless, but I want you to think like you have a shopping cart. Take very seriously what you put in it, and how much you can carry Do a home inventory, see what you have, and compare that to what you use. If you haven’t used it in a year, it’s gone. Free the space, and don’t fill it up again. Clutter is a natural depressant.
Here are the final ideas that I’m working on:
- Buy fewer items, but spend more on them.
- Buy items you use, not items you keep.
- Never keep anything because you might need it.
- Defend open space. Uncluttered space in your house will make you feel better.
- Avoid all collections.
Have a good weekend!